In retrospect every situation could have gone completely different. Just reaching behind your back to draw your gun can drastically change a situation. Let’s say you’re at the ATM. And some old guy sneaks up on you and starts yelling at you. It’s going to take a second to register what he’s mad about. He’s got a fifth grade education and probably drunk. If you draw and shoot him well you really weren’t in the right there. Yea you were at the ATM and you felt like you were being attacked. But you’ll spend a while in prison for it. If you don’t draw and end him but reach to draw he might draw. Or he might attack to try to stop you. In which case you’ll highly likely be in the right in the eyes of the law. If you do nothing and he yells at you about nothing and turns and walks away and continues yelling about everything and nothing then nothing comes of the situation. In other words your actions are equally as effective in completely changing a situation.
The goal is to always make the right decision. Make multiple wrong decisions and you lose. Don’t over compensate. Don’t make situations worse. Agree with upset people or ignore them. You don’t have the right defend yourself until you are actually defending your physical self. Your ego does not count. Judge the situation without judging the situation. Judgment is usually followed by an action. In the natural world where there is no police state on top of you rejudging the situation action is almost always the best way to deal with things. In the modern world you are forced to wait. You need to wait until the situation turns into the situation that the police state will deem your actions acceptable.
This is dangerous. This highly increases your chance at failure. If you could just blast someone for acting crazy then the good and bad wouldn’t coexist for too long. The bad would be all dead. But the bad are protected by laws. The bad are not judged until they are convicted of something. Many sociopaths and violent criminals coexist with the normal people. The ones that are good thrive. But you have to mind your own business and not be one of the bad. Be bad in a different way. Be the good guy whose worse than any bad guy. That’s the only way to survive.